Everyday life with newborns: What to expect and how to master it

When the baby finally arrives, a new phase of life begins—with all its ups and downs. Everyday life with a newborn is intense, demanding, beautiful, and often chaotic. Suddenly, everything revolves around this little one: feeding, changing diapers, comforting, sleeping (or rather, not sleeping). But what does this everyday life actually look like—and how can you manage it effectively?

In this article, you'll learn what to expect in the first few weeks with your baby, which routines can help you, and why perfection isn't the goal.

The first days at home – arriving and being amazed

After the birth, you return home with your baby – and suddenly everything is different. Your familiar surroundings feel new, your daily routine shifts, and time seems to race by and stand still simultaneously. Many parents report experiencing the first few days as if they were in a bubble – characterized by hormones, emotions, and a completely different focus.

During this time, it is all about settling in : getting to know your baby, rediscovering yourself as a mother or father, establishing breastfeeding (or bottle feeding) and developing your first routines.

Typical daily routine – as individual as your baby

A typical "daily routine" with a newborn is difficult to describe—because every baby is different. But there are recurring activities that alternate regularly:

Breastfeed or bottle feed – about every 2–3 hours, even at night
Changing diapers – usually after every meal or when needed
Cuddling & giving closeness – the be-all and end-all for newborns
Sleep – Newborns sleep 14–18 hours a day, but in short bursts
Calm, carry, observe – babies process many stimuli and need comfort
Body care & care of the navel area – gentle care is important
A little housework – if it can be arranged

There are no set sleeping or feeding times—newborns live according to their own rhythm. And that's okay. Try not to let rigid schedules stress you out; instead, find out together with your baby what works for you.

The sleep rhythm – a real challenge

One of the biggest changes for parents is the change in sleep patterns. Newborns sleep a lot, but rarely for more than 2–3 hours at a time. They frequently wake up because they are hungry or need closeness.

Sleep tips for everyday life:

Use short rest periods to rest or doze, if possible
Accept that nights are interrupted – it’s a phase
Create a quiet, dark sleeping environment without stimuli
Let your baby sleep as close to you as possible (e.g. in a cot)
Help yourself with power naps or quiet moments during the day

Important: You don't have to do everything alone. If you're exhausted, ask your partner, family, or friends for help—even if it's "just" a nap.

Breastfeeding, bottle feeding and meals – every few hours

A large part of everyday life with a newborn consists of feeding. Breastfeeding is more than just nourishment—it's about closeness, comfort, and bonding. Many breastfeeding beginners need time to get used to it. When you bottle feed, similar rituals develop.

What is important:

Feed according to need, not by the clock – your baby will signal when he or she is hungry
Try to be fully present while feeding – this strengthens your bond
Don’t be alarmed – every baby has its own drinking habits
Get support if breastfeeding or bottle feeding doesn't work right away (e.g., from a midwife or breastfeeding consultant)

You should also eat and drink regularly – this is easy to forget, but it is important for your energy and milk production.

Time for yourself? Sounds utopian, but it's possible

Self-care almost sounds like a bad joke in the first few weeks with a baby – and yet it's important. No one expects you to immediately start exercising or schedule a wellness routine. But short breaks, conscious breathing, a quiet shower, or a warm drink can go a long way.

Try to consciously create small islands in your everyday life:

Leave your baby with your partner or a trusted person
Listen to music or podcasts while changing or breastfeeding
Treat yourself to mini breaks, even if they only last 10 minutes

You're not a bad parent if you feel overwhelmed or exhausted sometimes—that's completely normal.

Household, visits & expectations – slowing down is allowed

Many parents feel the pressure to "function"—to do housework, entertain guests, and keep everything under control. But the truth is: Your main job in the first few weeks is to be there for your baby —and not to forget about yourself.

A few tips for more serenity:

Visit only if you feel like it – you can also cancel
Accept help – with cooking, shopping or cleaning
Leave household chores aside when you need peace and quiet – there is time
Keep in touch with other parents – exchange helps

The lochia, your body & healing

After giving birth, your body also needs time to recover. Postpartum bleeding, afterpains, tender nipples, and scars (from a cesarean section or perineal tear) are all part of the healing process.

Take this time:

Lie down whenever possible
Maintain good hygiene, but avoid aggressive products
Discuss any uncertainties with your midwife – she is there for you
Accept your new body – it has done great things

Everything is new – but you grow with it

It's okay not to know everything right away. You don't have to be a perfect mom or dad. You're allowed to make mistakes, doubt, cry, laugh, and be proud. Above all, your baby needs you—authentic, loving, and present .

Many parents develop a keen gut feeling over the weeks that tells them what their child needs. Trust yourself – even if there are days when everything seems chaotic.

Conclusion: Everyday life with newborns is not a “normal state” – but a special time

The first few months with a newborn are marked by changes, intense emotions, and new challenges. It's an exceptional time—in the best sense of the word. Give yourself space to experience this time, instead of trying to make it perfect.

With a little patience, support and the willingness to embark on the adventure of parenthood, your very own family routine will gradually emerge – one that is not

Everyday life with newborns – Between happiness, tiredness and new routine